WANT TO HAVE MORE FULFILLING RELATIONSHIPS?

Innovative Therapy Services for Individuals, Couples and Families in Berkeley, CA and Online Across California

Do any of the following resonate with you?

  • ‘I have a hard time staying calm and regulated when I am having relationship issues.’

  • ‘I worry about my relationships because I don’t know where I stand, both friends and romantic partners.’

  • ‘I’m lonely for a relationship but based on past experience, I’m scared I’ll lose myself.’

  • ‘Our relationship started out amazing, but now we are beginning to fight. How can we get back to amazing?.’

  • ‘We have a good relationship, but there are just some things we can’t talk about.’

If so, I’m here to help. I work with people — individually and as couples and families — to help them make sense of these relationship situations, and to help them find authentic and easeful ways of being in the world.

I support clients who want to connect to themselves and others,  from interpersonal relationships  to fulfilling their life’s work.  We explore the responses that keep you disconnected, lonely isolated or in conflict. We slow down and notice these responses and patterns — isolation, anger, anxiety, depression — to learn to acknowledge and communicate these truths more skillfully.


Relationship Therapy

Perhaps your attempts at romance or friendships don’t progress, or after making these attempts, you realize the relationships aren’t interesting or satisfying to you. You might even feel a little embarrassed that you should have learned how to connect with others at an earlier age. But you’re also tired of going through life alone.

Maybe you’re having a hard time communicating with a family member, and want some skills to have difficult conversations.

We are wired for connection, but sometimes our life experiences teach us to protect instead of connect.

Relationship therapy can be a space to explore and heal past experiences, to learn new relationship skills and tools, and to set and to hold boundaries where you can be your full self.

I've helped people fearful of relationships connect with others in ways that they never imagined to be possible. With new insights and tools to practice, my clients can find courage and ease with other people.

Relationship therapy can be for one person, for families, or for friends.

In therapy, you have the space to experiment with and explore new ways tofeel safe and present, and to process stories and experiences that keep you from connecting with others. More about Relationship Therapy


Trauma Therapy

Feeling overwhelmed and confused by your feelings and reactions to everyday situations? Realizing that there may be some unprocessed experiences that you are ready to heal? Sometimes on the path to rewarding relationships, we need to take time and space alone to consider how relationships affect us, and to process past relational traumas.

Sometimes we are moving through life happily and contentedly, until out of nowhere it seems like the past suddenly interrupts the present — maybe you’re having intrusive thoughts, maybe you’re managing anxiety or panic symptoms, or perhaps your clue that you are experiencing trauma is that you are having a hard time staying calm and regulated.

Trauma therapy can be helpful to process a single event, or past and ongoing situations.

Trauma work can be deep and transformational, given time, space and attunement. I have pursued specialized training in cutting-edge therapies that help heal trauma such as Brainspotting, polyvagal theory and expressive arts therapy.

Therapy can help you to slow down and make sense of your experiences, so that you have more space, compassion and capacity for the things that you want to do. Having a dedicated time and place to process honestly and curiously can give you insights about patterns, and the deeper currents that may be affecting you. More about Trauma Therapy


Couple Therapy

Are you looking to find your voice in the relationship? Do you want to reconnect with the person you fell in love with? Do you want to find ease and playfulness in your relationship again?

Being part of a couple can make you feel deeply seen and loved, and incredibly frustrated, all within a matter of seconds. Our primary relationships is where we tend to feel the most intensity, both good and bad. And if we don’t know what ‘good’ looks like or feels like, it’s hard to know how to build a healthy relationship. The good news is, change can happen. Not only is it possible to find the spark and connection in your relationship — it’s also possible to reset the foundation of your bond with care and intention.

I am trained in Level 1 PACT, (Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy, Stan Tatkin) which emphasizes and strengthens security within the relationship.

Couple therapy is a space for you to slow down, listen to yourselves and each other, and learn ways to improve your connection and to tend to your relationship. Couple therapy can create a space of warmth and understanding for your relationship. helping you to relate in new ways. More about Couple Therapy

Hello

Hi, I’m Eileen Van Tyne. I’m an enthusiastic and intuitive therapist that can help you improve your relationships. I love supporting people unpacking big emotions, people experiencing stress and dysregulation in their relationships, and those feeling lonely and wanting more connection and community in their lives.

I believe that healing is a mind-body and spirit process, and that therapy should include all of those parts of of you too.

What makes me different? I listen carefully and read between the lines, uncovering what might really be going on underneath.

If you’d like to see how we might work together, schedule a 20-minute consultation below.

 

My Areas of Experience and Focus

  • Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents

  • Complex Trauma

  • Betrayal Trauma

  • Intergenerational Trauma

  • Relationship Issues

  • Mother and Daughter Relationships

  • Perfectionism

  • Inner Critic

  • People-pleasing

  • Burnout

  • Depression

  • Anxiety

  • Substance Use

Potential Positive Side Effects and Benefits of Therapy

Your experience will be unique, but here are some of the positives that you may notice in your everyday life as a result of ongoing, consistent therapy:

  • Feeling calmer

  • Being more curious than fearful

  • Awareness of your boundaries

  • Seeing situations from a new perspective

  • Increased self-confidence

  • Noticing what feels good

  • Noticing patterns in how you respond, and who you respond to

  • Increased mindfulness

  • Better self-regulation skills